• what if?

    we were getting ready for school one morning a few months ago.  i was brushing maddie’s hair. “what if we find a sister and she has a brother?  would we adopt him too?”, she asked. i was a bit shocked.  “um.  wow.  uh, yeah.  i guess we would.  yes, we would.” the thought had never crossed my mind.  she wanted a sister.  in my mind it ended there.  many ‘what ifs’ have entered my thoughts since the possibility of a second adoption came about.  but a brother?  no.  coming to us with a sister?  no.  but could i tell my sweet girl no?  we did keep she and her brothers…

  • what’s my name?

    max to josh – “why do you call mommy kirsten?” josh – “i call her kirsten because that’s her name.” max – “no, her name’s not kirsten.  her real name is mommy.”

  • preservice training 903

    preservice training 903~the effects of child abuse or neglect on child development none of this is new to me. i learned about it all in college.  working toward a degree in child development, i kind of had to learn this stuff.  i learned about it all again as i was training to become a social worker, the kind that works with abused and neglected kids.  i learned about it all again as i was being licensed to become a foster/adoptive parent, the kind that fosters and adopts abused and neglected kids. the first time around, in college, i had no idea why i was learning these things, but they were…

  • i know what’s at stake

    on my way to training i was feeling nervous.  i wondered if i’d be emotional and totally soaking things in.   or would i maybe be disconnected?   i’ve been down this road before.  i’ve heard the stories and the statistics.  i was a social worker for crying out loud.  i’ve been parenting adopted children for almost 7 years.   i’ve heard it all.  and then i thought, oh, i know what’s at stake this time. last time around, it was very much about me.  i was infertile.  i wanted to be a mother.  i knew there were children who needed a mother and i could be that to them.  we could…

  • hi, i’m josh and this is my wife kirsten

    last night started with some announcements~the cancellation policy, if you miss a class how to make it up at another location, don’t forget to sign in when you get here, etc.  then boom, intros.  “josh, tell us about yourself!” we were in the front row (yes, we are those people) so it was easy to call on us to get things started.  “hi, i’m josh and this is my wife kirsten. we adopted a sibling group of three, six years ago, and we’re here to adopt again.”  there were a few gasps at the mention of a sibling group of three. we’re used to that, we get it often.  there…